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How many times during your day do you come across something that is telling you to enhance your beauty? Or an advert selling shapewear ‘tucking’ you in all the right places, there are so many! Everywhere I look, I am reminded that there is something I can do to improve my looks or ‘enhance’ my beauty. Most of the time I just scroll past, however, sometimes I subconsciously click and the next thing I know I am contemplating investing my money in the next beauty trend.
However, with the advancement of technology, it doesn’t even have to be a trend, it could be a photo application you should be downloading to make your eyes wider, lips fuller and teeth whiter. The options are endless, and it’s not just your face that you can change, you can slim your waist, give yourself some abs, a tan and even make your derriere bigger. Why not, right? After all, the aim is to post the perfect version of ourselves, attract more likes and possibly more followers. Some apps even have the audacity to charge you a monthly subscription because you know, it pays to look good and it is always an idea to make money from other peoples insecurities.
We all have our hang-ups and would rather hide them, that is just human nature and there is nothing wrong with adding a filter to your photo or smoothing out your skin and making a few touches here and there, especially on the days you aren’t feeling up to par, we are all guilty of it. That is not really the problem though, the problem is knowing when enough is enough. Morphing into a digital version of what you want to look like is dangerous territory both emotionally and mentally. After the ‘perfect’ picture is posted, others have liked and praised it, you are buzzing with excitement and can’t wait to play around with the next picture, it soon becomes a very addictive cycle. So, what happens when reality hits back and you are looking at your true reflection knowing that your eyes aren’t the colour you made them, or your waist isn’t as small as you made it? Are you still happy with yourself? Because essentially, that is what it comes down to, being comfortable enough in your own skin completely stripped bare of any digital enhancements.
I love wearing makeup as much as the next person, I love how empowering and refreshing it makes me feel but I also love not wearing makeup. On a few special occasions, I have worn fake eyelashes, I loved the way they made my eyes just pop but I HATE them, the best part is always ripping them off at the end of the night! Now, there is a more long-term solution, lash extensions, you can have longer, fuller lashes that will last you for weeks! Except it doesn’t just stop there, hair extensions, spray tans (or sunbeds) and fake nails are also popular choices. Not only do these things require constant maintenance, but they also can be quite costly. A full set of lashes could easily set you back £50 and that’s excluding infills! You haven’t even started on the nails, tan and hair extensions yet and oh, we can’t forget the makeup that we need to regularly top up along with other beauty products. All of these will help you create the perfect image of yourself, whether in real life or social media.
There is absolutely no judgement on any woman that chooses to do one or all of these things. As I said, we are all guilty in one way or another and if it provides the confidence boosts needed, then why not? After all, we all want to look and feel good about ourselves and there is no shame in that and we most definitely should not shame other women for their beauty choices. But what happens, if there comes a time when you cannot afford to maintain all these beauty luxuries anymore? Will you still feel confident about yourself? Will you love yourself without the false lashes, nails or hair extensions the same you love yourself with them? Will you love the real version of yourself and not the one you posted on your social media?
The rise of depression and mental health among the younger generation which many studies have attributed to social media is alarming and should not be taken lightly, therefore, it is important to remember that social media is a make-believe world, where anyone can create an exaggerated version of what their life really is. A day may come where social media is a thing of the past, so living in the moment and creating a real life you can actually enjoy is a million times for fulfilling than social media could ever be…
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